The below text are common scenarios in therapy. Your specific needs are most likely different. Please call with your unique circumstance(s) and let’s get started tomorrow.
You dread when people ask you “How are you doing”? You make everything look so easy. If they only knew”..
You’ve been thinking about therapy for a while. Finding someone you trust with your untold feelings, emotions, thoughts, and behaviors that you share with no one is NOT EASY.
Work is going great, so is your relationship, (no fights in 3 days). You woke up well rested and feel confident. At the end of the day, you receive a text from your partner saying “somethings come up, can’t make it tonight. Talk later”. In an instant you start to imagine the worst. Your anxiety turns on.
Ten minutes into your drive home your mom calls. As usual, she’s drags you into her drama. You listen, and agree with her side of a different situation, same problem. You’ve endured this your entire life. You check your email after dinner and there’s an email from your boss. Blaming you for nothing you did wrong. This reminds you of how your mother would take her bad day out on you when you were little.
Then anxiety that keeps you up at night SMACKS YOU ACCROS THE FACE…..Your boss is making work unbearable, you tell yourself over and over. Your romantic partner is moody, dismisses you, and is mean when you just call to reschedule the plans. All you wanted to say was “Hi”. People in your life treat you this way because you’re just too nice and you want to make everyone else happy. Are you happy making sure others are always happy? I aways had to make my mother happy??!!
This causes you to dread the alarm going off after staying up late thinking about ALL of this. You’re exhausted the entire next day feeling like you’re in a fog, only to feel awake at 7pm (Only then, the thought of finding a therapist returns).
You’re up late at night researching their behavior online. Learning new terms like abusive relationships, gaslighting, boundaries, and codependent behavior. Dose this produce a change in their behavior?… No. You pointing out these behaviors cause a huge fight.
You might even have a fantasy of them aggreging with you. Telling you, “Thank you! I see how my abusive mother and the chaotic childhood I experienced caused my abusive behavior. I will find a therapist near me today and get to the roots of my personality, anger, and dishonesty”. Most likely this is NOT going to happen…
Now you’ve reached a decision to make. You can keep living the way you are, or you can pick up the phone and call me!
What you will gain with therapy.
After you find acceptance and explore YOURSELF from the inside out. You’ll Understand the roots of your anxiety, relationship patterns, and why you pick partners who reappear with the same behaviors. Just different names.
You will truly heal in a way most in the world never do. Finding a therapist is not a task most people make a priority. YOU ARE DIFFERENT! You want to feel confident and secure in yourself and in your relationships.
You will have the right words to set others straight in a way that conveys your integrity, with your values, and clear limits with that particular situation. You will not feel guilty. You’ll be
BOUNDARIES will flow easy, and the other will respect your choice. Everyone will love and respect you for who you ARE.
Don’t toss and turn one more night… say …”yes”.. when every fiber in your body screams “no”… Stop enduring your anxiety, stuffing you emotions deep down to please everyone… Take 15 min. to call now for a free consultation. Your happiness will thank you.
If you need to end a toxic relationship you will do so in a way that you feel good about your decision and not allow the other to guilt and shame you. CALL NOW to set your free consultation. 818-384-8284.